Monday, February 2, 2009

J'ai mangé trop!



On the roof of the Galleries Lafayette




Does the kitty come with the chair??



Mandatory Pigeon Photo



Monday Night:

It is midnight, and after a long day, I am laying comotose in my bed after a full meal. I have eaten more today than I have in all the other days put together. Ok, that is not exactly true, at all, but I am so full I couldn't even sit up at my desk to blog!

This evening, Madame Poidevin's two sisters, Francoise and Dominique, came over for dinner. Francoise is moving out of the apartment building (she and Madame live in the same building--how cute is that?) and out of Paris to where Dominique lives. Dominique came to the city to help her move, and Madame made dinner for all of us.

It was an interesting evening...I came home, around four o'clock, and did some work. Around 7, Madame came in and informed me that some guests had arrived, so I came into the living room to have some hor d'oeuvres and drinks with them. The guests were Francoise, Madame's sister, her son Jeremey, and one of Madame's friends. At around 7:30, Dominique (sister two) came in. I am not sure where she falls in age-order of the sisters, but from my own experience she is probably the youngest--she was decked out in beautiful fur accessories and pearls, red lips and nails, and she was very flustered because there was some machine that she couldn't move...or something. Needless to say, I didn't quite understand all of what ensued, but within five minutes the whole party had departed.

I later found out that there was some trouble moving a laundry machine with a dolly from Dominique's car or something, but at the time it was really confusing. My French is not yet good enough to catch what is going on all the time!

At around 9, everyone finally returned and we sat down to dinner. Madame's sisters were very nice but it is interesting to continue to see the differences between French and American culture/behavior/sense of humor/manners, etc.

For example, at dinner,
-The sisters complimented me on how good my French is. When I said, "Oh but my grammar is horrible," Francoise said, "Well that is true, it is horrible." I'm glad I'm not sensitive!
-Instead of commenting on what things are, they mention what they are not...ex: They were talking about someone's ex-husband and instead of saying "He's old!" They said, "He's not young..."
-It is polite to keep your hands on the table at all times, and to rest them on the sides of your plate when you're not using your utensils! That is the hardest for me to adhere to, since I am finally remembering not to rest my arms on the table at my own home!

The list goes on. French people are so different. It can be tiring, but it is fun.


The other night I went to dinner at a French friend of mine's friend's apartment, then to one of her friend's parties. The entire social dynamic is almost the opposite of what I experience in LA. Hard to get used to, but really nice in a sense...Everyone is much calmer, and overall more mature.

Oh! Today it snowed! I almost forgot to add that important detail!


I woke up at about 7:30 for class, and heard something outside, but it sounded too soft to be rain. I looked out the window, and it was snowing! It is supposed to snow more later this week. While it has to be pretty cold to snow, it didn't feel quite as windy or frigid as it has been the past few days. It was difficult to walk through in the morning, but the snow made everything so pretty!!


5 comments:

Heidi Guest said...

Hi Ashley,

Loved both your entries and the pictures. How great that you had to walk everywhere and there was no school! What a fun day you had.

I'm also very interested in the cultural tidbits/norms and etiquette that you are sharing. Keep them coming. Though I understand the "what" of the table manners you shared, I'm not sure I get the "why's". Fascinated by it all. Always fun to learn.

The snow looks so pretty and the city looks very much like New York's current winterized state.

Happy Ground Hog Day to you. Do the french recognize February 2 as such?

Love to you,

Heidi

Anonymous said...

This is all so lovely, but when are you going to admit how much you miss AMERICAN culture??

For example, on superbowl Sunday:
-i ate ten pounds of chips and salsa for dinner, and for dessert? cheese whiz on saltines. The French know NOTHING of fine cheeses; I bet you can’t even get cheese in a CAN over there.
-i laughed a little too hard at a commercial where a guy gets hit in the groin with a snow globe... i'm actually still chuckling about it as i type...
-i listened to two men negotiate the stipulations of their superbowl bet. If the steelers won, the loser would have to regurgitate the hot wing that he stole from the winner… the steelers won...
-I laughed too hard at another commercial where a man gets hit in the groin…but this time its Michael Cera and he gets hit by a stone!
-after the game…as the only female in the group, I took it upon myself to wash all the dishes, clean up empty beer cans, and put away the leftover chips and dip, hot wings, pizza, FREEDOM fries... No one offered to help, but I was complimented on how “domestic” I was!!!

And the list goes on… obviously, “French people are so different” because Americans are #1. USA! USA!

OK … Clearly, I’m a little BITTER (but mainly thrilled) that you get to spend your semester in such a culturally stimulating city. But at least I get to live vicariously through you via your blog which is beyond fantastic… I feel as though I’m right there with you, such detailed and insightful writing and beautiful pictures. I can’t wait until we graduate and backpack through Europe and you give me an intimate tour of your city. Tell me about your classes! I miss you and love you!

Diana said...

Dear Ashley -

Awww! That kitty looks like our dearly departed Rosey!

The mandatory pigeon photo - HaHa! You are your mother's daughter, in many ways :))

I just LOVE your detailed description of the dinner guests! You write so well that I can easily imagine the scene! You may not yet "catch" all that is being verbalized around you, but you are doing excellantly with the visual details!!

Diana said...

Oh -- And I loved Maddie's comment about Super Bowl Sunday - HaHa! Funny and true!

It seemed that this year the commercials were more violent than the football game.

We ate piles of Super Bowl snacks too -- hot dogs,chili, Cheese Whiz, hummus, guacamole, a mountain of chips and crackers... and the barest minimum of table manners.

PamelaS said...

Ashley,

I'm not too sure about the hands on the table...Daddy looked a little puzzled by that one! I may have to consult an "Emily Post" of France book (If there is such a thing?). Wouldn't want you to commit any possible faux pas while dining elsewhere...

Sounds like we missed some "interesting" commercials by not watching the Super Bowl (Did I admit that? Well, we did watch the final few minutes.)--Funny, the fcc wouldn't allow a PETA commercial, which was touting the libido enhancing effects of being a vegetarian, to be aired--considered too inappropriate for daytime tv!
Gee, I wonder why violence is so rampant in the US...

And, of course there has to be the mandatory pigeon photo--I think only a few people really understand, or appreciate , the significance! Aunt Diana being one of them.

Je t'aime, Mommy